Fix your relationship with your child!
Parenting was never meant to be difficult. If it's difficult for you, you're using the wrong approach! Learn how to nurture positive relationships with your children by using ONE simple powerful approach that gives profound results when used correctly and consistently.
There is joy in black parenting
The perspective advocated in this space is contrary to the common view that children are just little people to be fed, clothed, sheltered and dictated to until they reach 18 or 21. Or the view that they are burdens that get in the way of adults doing the things that they prefer to do. Those are the beliefs & attitudes that got many parents to the point of being disconnected from their children: yelling, lashing, cursing & threatening them. There is more to parenting and here is where I break it down for you and equip you to get on a path where you enjoy and benefit from your parenting experience.
Why black parenting?
Black parents have very distinct ways of relating to their children; whether they are parents from the Caribbean, England or North America, many of their ways are grounded in behaviors that emanated from the enslavement experienced by their fore parents. More black parents need to be aware of the damage they cause to their children's sense of self by the words they use, their actions and attitudes. Parents can save themselves and the wider society a lot of heartache by being conscious of how they relate to their children; this extends to teachers and care providers. The common beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that cause damage have not been sufficiently and consistently addressed with a view to bring about positive change; that's why the focus here is on black parenting.
Parenting consciously
Are you conscious of how you parent?
"I was not aware of the damage my words were doing to my kids... I really didn't mean what I said, it's just stuff you say when you're frustrated. Now, I watch every word I say to them. "
Angelique, GA
"I was so busy being offended every time my daughter spoke her truth that I never took the time to understand what she was trying to communicate to me... I now understand that she was hurting and needed my attention as a father."
Troy, Barbadoss
"Admitting to my son that I was wrong and that I made a mistake was a blow to my ego but I was uplifted when he hugged me and told me that everybody makes mistakes. Our relationship is better because I finally let him see that I don't always get it right"
Karen, NY
Your children are gifted to you to be a critical part of your life experience as you guide and support them. Your guidance and support is needed to help them prepare to make their unique contribution to the world. In the words of Jess Lair - Children are not things to be molded but are (people) to be unfolded - just as you would a gift. And what's inside? That's what you discover through the relationships you develop with them. To fully appreciate your gifts, you have to be attentive and anticipate receiving great value. Parenting consciously (which is being aware of how you parent) brings you into an alignment with your child. It lays a foundation for you to make a connection to be attuned to your child's spirit. Remember, you are responsible for, not their body and mind alone, but also their spirit; and if no one has told you before, parenting is the most spiritual responsibility you will ever have.
© 2025. Joy in Black Parenting